Women, men, and Their Dating Choices

Women and men alike do a fair amount of bitching about differences between the sexes. One of the most common complaints is the choices the opposite sex makes in the selection of a mate. Does this sound naseously familiar?

"Why do girls always go for badboys? What about me I'm nice?"

"Why are men so shallow? They all want plastic barbie dolls, not real women with their own opinions?"

Firstly, let me say I'm not big on whining about that which cannot be changed. Its like complaining about tides "why would the moon do such a thing? Its unfair. The moon should change." Futile. In the meantime, people that accept the tides, learn how to use it to their advantage. A day at the beach is far more pleasant with knowlege and acceptance. So lets first accept our differences.

Accept that men want sex from beautiful women and a variety of women. Knowing this ladies it would be important to do what you can with what you have. Eat right, go to the gym religiously and refrain from drinking and smoking. We seek out gentically gifted women, but variety is even more important. Most guys would choose variety over one beautiful woman. Don't believe it? Hugh Grant. Accept that men seek variety and don't let it bug you. Its not a personal attack when a man wants to sleep with another woman, Its his nature. Let it be.

Although looks ARE important, looks are NOT everything for men. Probably the least recognized way to get a man interested in you, on a relationship level, is to lower your maintenance number. Your maintenance number on a scale of 1 - 10 would judge how much effort needs to go into maintaining a relationship with you. The lower the number the better. So if a woman is a 1, she's nearly one hundred percent self sufficient, doesn't complain about anything, and doesn't act neurotic or find problems where there are none. A 10...well you know how they behave. Yes your behavior counts. Being difficult is unnatractive. Men love bitches? No we hate bitches. PHD or GED is irrelevant. A woman is never entitled to a be a perpetual bitch, regardless of education, income, or social status. The best way to avoid becoming a bitch is to avoid complaining at all costs unless something TRULY crosses your boundries (ie. abusive or grossly inconsiderate behavior.) Don't manufacture problems and then give these problems power by discussing them with your girlfriends. Accept that your emotions don't equal REAL problems, only problems in your own mind. Let the emotion run Its course and if It's still a problem for you, then have a heart to heart with your man.

So if men seek variety and beauty, then what do women seek? Badboys. At least they seek badboys during the prime of their lives (18-30.) Here's what a lot of guys don't realize about badboys. Badboys can be nice. In fact women prefer it. However, the badboys have other qualities that make them attractive. Firstly, badboys do what they do without permission. That's not being mean, that's being strong. Having faith in yourself is a strength and women respond to strength. Badboys, don't put up with any bullshit either, from other men and other women. Again, this communicates strength. Nice? Mean? Irrelevant. Be strong.

What guys should do to communicate strength is to firstly stop catering to women. Don't do anything for a woman who hasn't earned it. Don't say what you think they will like. Say what YOU like. Don't change your plans with your friends to be with a woman. Make plans and maybe she can come along for the ride. Your actions should demonstrate power, authority, and dominance. If these are qualities you lack then the good news is they CAN be cultivated. Look for articles and books on developing this type of character. Your character is MOST important. Character is more important than the money you make, your looks and certaintly far more important than being nice.

In closing I would like to say that it is the responsibility of the individual, man or woman to make the best of their dating lives. Nobody is entitled and bitching gets you nowhere. Accept what can't be changed and take the right actions necessary to get what you want. Human behavior is relatively predictable. Use this knowlege to your benefit.

Here's a word from a lady with big teeth...